This is my guest post, originally published here.
We are come over with the past 2017 and looking forward to make the next year. So, I just thought of writing down some of the happiness habits that I learnt in the year 2017 (which has been one of the best years of my life). So, here is the list:
- Being a “People pleaser”? – Sometimes we get stuck with catering to the demands of other people. I learnt that Happy people are good at saying “NO” and being assertive. I read in one of books by Paolo Coelho – “when you say ‘yes’ to other people, you shouldn’t say ‘no’ to yourself.” When you say ‘no’ to yourself, you feel disoriented and empty instead of happy. If you’re too nice, caring, and considerate and try to please everyone around you, it may be draining, and stressful. It’s good to be kind and helpful but not at the cost of your own priorities. Happy People understand that they can’t please everyone all the time.
Care a damn about the opinions of others– I learnt that Happy people are undoubtedly caring but at the same time, they don’t care about what others think and say about them. They value their instinct, knowing that opinions are not constant and they keep changing. They know what is important for them. Happy people are modest enough to acknowledge the self-effacement to accept the grain of truth in what people say. They use this to encourage their own happiness and wisdom. In the society we live, majority of people are into the business of forming opinions and judgments about others. Truly happy people, care a damn about estimations.
Knowing priorities: I learnt that Happy people know what and who are the part of their priority list. They do make adjustments and modifications but based on priorities not just to please others to show them generosity but pushing themselves to the edges. Besides, there are countless things that demand (or to be precise distracts) your attention – notifications from Facebook account, a deadline is approaching, date for a bill or insurance premium is due, there could be many more. Happy people take a break- Think about their life and responsibilities and then decide what is really important to them.
Health of the body and mind: I learnt that Happy people take incredible care of their bodies and minds knowing that they could have the most incredible job, family, and network but if they don’t care about their wellness none of the other stuff is sustainable. They eat right, rest well and give fairly enough time to their well-being. One should take a nap when needed, conserve some hobbies, write about something, and even volunteer to recharge physical and mental batteries. as it enables you to support, liberate, and save yourself.
Using Money for happiness: I learnt that Happy people know money cannot buy happiness, but it can be a shipshape tool for happiness when spent on things that bring them longer lasting good feelings such as family holidays, charity work or even outsourcing the tasks which they are unable to perform at their own. I recently got the change to take up an online course on “Science of Happiness” where I learnt that “we’re never satisfied. “We always think if we just had a little bit more money, we’d be happier,” however, the recent studies states “Once you get basic human needs met, a lot more money doesn’t make a lot more happiness,” So, after a point, not “earning” money but spending it rightly can certainly bring happiness to you. Money can help you find more happiness, as long as you know what to expect from it.
Taking out time for Self: I learnt that Happy people know that no one knows them better than themselves. They spend time with themselves by pursuing their hobbies, reading, reflecting and in many others ways which make them feel grounded and where they grow as a person. This is how they become more compassionate, creative and self-aware. This habit not make them a better person, but they are also to create and respect their own values.
Ultimate happiness generator: I learnt that Happy people know happiness is a distinct feeling. Surely, they understand that there are philosophies and practices that help, but only they can know where their growth, journey and path needs to be. Happy people live the way they life because life is short, beautiful and valuable and so is the happiness. They live more in the present moment than the grudges of the past and worries of the future.
No one in the world wakes up with the feeling of happiness each day and extremely happy people are no exception. They just persistently appraise their moods and choose to be at peace with the everyday situations which may pull them down.
What are your habits which help you stay positive and make you a happy person? Please feel free to share your ideas as a happy person, in the comment box. So that, others too get inspired to lead a happier life.